The issue of true love waits is a valid issue concerning of love. The big question however is, “How to wait?”
With the current shift of culture and moral standards of the world, I believe true love waits is an “on-time” seminar for our younger generation.
I do not believe to what the government is doing as their solution for the rising cases of HIV. I believe that it is still the revival of moral values is still the best solution for this, hence, religious groups can do indeed play a great role in this issue.
The article below was taken from the True Love Waits Manual published by Church Strengthening Ministry years ago. Thus, I find this article direct to the point and helpful to our younger generation.
How To Wait?
1. Seek God – The more we get to know God, the more we realize what He wants us to do and the more we discover His plans for us. He is the best example of love because He is love (1 John 4:7-21).
2. Guard your heart – Our hearts lead us into our actions. We must try keeping it pure for those who need true love from us. We must always check to see if what we do is good and will build us up an make us stronger. The Bible also tells us that God will help us guard aour hearts; we have to learn to listen to Him (Philippians 4:7).
3. Guard your thoughts – While we might say, “I can handle it, it does not affect me,” our thoughts can put our defenses at risk. Temptation in itself is not sin, but it may lead us to sin. While waiting, it pays to keep a clean mind. (Read Philippians 4:8 and 2 Corinthians 10:5).
4. Look at others in a different light – In the book, “I Kissed Dating Goodbye,” the author suggests that rather than looking at others as potential boyfriends and girlfriends, we should treat eac other with absolute purity and show brotherly love. When we do, we can see why each one is special in God’s sight.
5. Strive for purity even in what you do – a) Dress to advertise yourself not your sexuality. Wear clothes that call attention to your face, your eyes, your smile, things that communicate who you are. B) Watch your conversation. There is one important principle in communication: it is irreversible. So say only what will build up, not tear down; what will guide, not mislead. Even when you are considering an intimate relationship with someone or are already in this kind of relationship, we should still strive for purity. One way to do this is to set our “rules” so to speak even before the situation arises.
6. Make friends – Waiting does not mean you have to cut yourself off from the people around you. These friends can actually be your “support group” people who will help you with your convictions. Ecclesiastes 4:10-12 gives us the importance of friendship.
7. Prepare your answers to pressure lines such as “If you really loved me, you would,” Everyone is doing it,” “Marriage is a long way off. Why deny yourself this pleasure now?” – At one time, we all will have to make a stand. When this time comes, we should have a prepared answer. While this kit may give you some “ammunition” to answer the question, the best and the most effective answer is one that points to Jesus and does not sound prideful: “I have given my life to Jesus. I cannot do that.”
8. Get involved in something much larger than yourself – A charitable cause, a community project, an others-oriented campaign will always need volunteers instead of spending time wondering when the right person will come along, immerse yourself in helping other.
9. Think of your singleness as a blessing – Enjoy your singleness! There are many things you can do as an individual and not do if you have a commitment to someone. These are the times when you can mature more, grow more, in the different aspects of life. It is a time to meet people and get to know God more. As we wait, we should make the best of our time by responding to the call of purity. Someone may also be waiting for us. Until we meet that person, we will be able to say, “I’m worth waiting for.”
Remember, it’s not just your future mate who needs true love from you. The other four also do.